When I started this blog, I wanted to comment on and discuss issues related to childhood. But today I somehow feel that I should deviate from that a little bit and write about some thing that is pricking me. It is more concerned with adults or the so called “grown ups’.
But no ! I think this is relevant for this blog as this issue also stems from or is concerned with proper parenting. And all the more when as a parent you are responsible to make or mar ninety percent of your child’s life whether he is a child, a boy, a teenager,
a professional, a husband, a wife or a father or a mother. If the foundation itself is faulty what right we have to lament about his or her attitude, ideas and ideologies?
As parents we are all trying to “magnificently prepare” our children, prepare them, to settle them down in life with a safe career and a comfortable family. But in truth aren’t they “magnificently unprepared” to meet the challenges of life? I sometimes feel that we have incredibly failed to create a world, a world, where our children can live in peace and happiness. We try to make great experts or professionals of them, but fail to nurture their emotional or psychological side, with the result that he/ she spend the rest of their life not knowing how to deal with their own frustrations, fears, desires, hurts, boredom, freedom, aggression and suffering.
For instance, we want our child to be happily settled with a family. Do you know it is a tremendous task for us, as parents to prepare our children for a happy and peaceful life. The main hindrance to their happiness is our own personal ideas, our own upbringing and our own possessiveness that our child is only our child, no one else. We are not ready to provide anybody else related to them other than ourselves, with any breathing space.
Usually we make the greatest mistake by side-lining this to the least important category in our list. But please observe your child’s development closely and with great attention and use the best opportunity to talk to him, talk to your child at the most appropriate time. We cannot mend the mistakes made by those who brought us up if they had made any and if the have affected us, but we can take a firm decision not to tamper with our child’s attitudes by not talking to him, not making him aware of these simple facts of life. We should keep in our mind that by not sensitising your child to these issues, you are knowingly or unknowingly tampering with the personality of another human being, another family, which, you have absolutely no right to do.
“A stitch in time saves nine” a small self examination by you and a small conversation with your child will save three families- your own family, your child’s family and his companion’s family. Please do not hesitate- it is time !